Truths

buttered popcorn1. It’s always in the last pocket. Check there first.

2. A lot of life is just bullshit. A lot of bullshit is just life. The rest of it is Facebook.

3. No kid dreams of growing up to have a job cleaning crawlspaces of raccoon and rat infestation. But some people end up with that job and we should be grateful to them.

4. We spend too much time worrying about what others think of us. The truth is, most of the time they don’t.

5. That spider is not more afraid of you than you are of it.

6. Washing your hands after shaking hands with someone is a good way to stop the spread of germs. But washing up immediately, while they are still standing there watching you, is awkward.

7. No one stops being human the moment they become homeless. But, too often, we pretend they do.

8. The breath mint was offered for a reason. Take it.

9. If you have a chance to be at your son’s baseball game, you should be at your son’s baseball game.

10. Dance like no one is watching and you will be celebrated for your self-confidence and free spirit. Eat buttered popcorn like no one is watching and you’ll lose peoples’ respect.

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Butterscotch

butterscotch candiesCruising the city one night in high school my friends and I stopped in at Pizza Hut. Against the wall, sitting alone, was a redheaded girl about my age. We made eye contact and I was drawn to her in the same way you may be drawn to stare at old photographs of relatives you never knew. You see something there, something familiar, though you can’t quite place it.

I went over to her and suddenly I knew her. Cheryl. My neighbor until I was eight years old. I played in her sandbox. We played Toss-Across and Operation in her living room. We rode the school bus together until I moved out of the school district. Kids were always mean to her when we were little because she was fat. Maybe they were still mean since she was still a big girl. Maybe that’s why she was alone.

We said a few things to each other. Hey, how you doing? Wow, can’t believe it’s you. What grade you in now? Nothing deeper than that, and then my friends were ready to leave. We drove around all night looking for connection but I spent the rest of the night thinking about Cheryl. I remembered her crying a lot. I remembered her dad. I remembered him being a real asshole. I remembered how he would chase Cheryl around in the street in front of our house with a wooden spoon in his hand. When he caught her he would yank down her shorts and beat her big bare behind with the spoon in front of all the kids who were watching and laughing. Usually he beat her just because she hadn’t come home on time, or because she hadn’t completed some chore or had completed it but had done it wrong. There was no winning with him. Kids were mean to her. Her dad was mean to her. She was surrounded by meanness. That’s what I remembered about her.

When we moved away I struggled with the very real sense that I was abandoning Cheryl. Our last night in our house, when everything was packed into the moving truck and our sleeping bags were spread on the bedroom carpets, after dark, I snuck out and over to Cheryl’s house. I crept through the bushes to her bedroom window and on the windowsill I placed three Brach’s butterscotch candies in their golden cellophane wrappers. I was eight; it was all I knew to do. I hoped Cheryl would find them in the morning and somehow know that they came from me and somehow know that I was protecting her, that I was thinking of her even though I was gone.

I did think about her. But not for long. I grew up and I forgot her.